Unsubscribe: How to Unfollow Your Perfect Mother Programming, Quiet Your Harsh Inner Critic, and Harness Your Greatest Superpower for More Peaceful

Unsubscribe: How to Unfollow Your Perfect Mother Programming, Quiet Your Harsh Inner Critic, and Harness Your Greatest Superpower for More Peaceful

Clinical Psychologist, active psychotherapy practitioner and mother, Dr. Sara Nett offers Unsubscribe: How to Unfollow Your Perfect Mother Programming, Quiet Your Harsh Inner Critic, and Harness Your Greatest Superpower for More Peaceful Living as an invitation for mothers everywhere to disentangle from “Perfect Mother Programming” in order to reduce emotional suffering and find greater peace. No one escapes Perfect Mother Programming (PMP), a collection of culturally derived, extreme, and unrealistic expectations that dictate how mothers should think, feel, and behave. Examples of PMP: A grateful mother enjoys every moment of her pregnancy. - I should never feel sad or miss aspects of my life that existed before I became a parent. - I’m not supposed to feel sad, angry, or unfulfilled; maybe I’m not fit to be a mother. - I shouldn’t feel this way when my baby cries; good mothers never feel angry when their baby needs them. - Imaginative play is so important for my child; what is wrong with me that I don’t enjoy this? - Good mothers are creative and fun; they are eager to begin each day with their toddler, rather than feeling anxiety and trepidation. I don’t have what it takes to be a mother. You didn’t willingly subscribe to this soul-crushing doctrine. It was learned. It was inherited by way of cultural membership . Perfect Mother Programming not only demands perfection, but delivers harsh inner criticism in response to any “misstep.” When you feel sad, disappointed, or angry about aspects of motherhood, make a mistake, or fall short of your own expectations, rest assured that your Perfect Mother Programming will be there to remind you of all of the ways that you are “not enough,” in the attempt to shame you into “doing better” next time. The Perfect Mother has become our gauge for self-worth, and the consequences are extreme. In this game, we lose every time; trapped in a cycle of chasing perfection, inevitably falling short, and reflexively shaming ourselves into attempts to change the ways that we think, feel, and behave. The problem is, this strategy is devastating to our emotional health and completely ineffective in helping us show up as the parents we want to be. In Unsubscribe , Dr. Nett will teach you to see this cycle in action and empower you with the ideas, concepts, and practices you need to step out of this patterning. You will learn to recognize your Perfect Mother Programming and begin to move toward a more compassionate way of responding to your human imperfections. Dr. Nett’s practical, step-by-step instruction will help you cultivate two superpowers already lying in wait: 1) the ability to better understand and observe your mind in action, exponentially increasing your power of choice and attention, and 2) the ability to respond to your suffering with greater self-compassion. Whether you are pregnant, postpartum, or firmly in the trenches of motherhood, you deserve the opportunity to Unsubscribe from Perfect Mother Programming; to suffer less, to experience greater kindness and inner peace, and to give your children the the opportunity to witness self-compassion in action. Unlearning and breaking intergenerational cycles is hard work, and it’s worth it. Unsubscribe is the no-nonsense, practical guide that you need for successful, long-term change that will move you toward more sustainable emotional wellness. Let’s do this!